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With so much selection, choosing your first toy can be a daunting task. We’ve got suggestions for picking out a vibrator, dildo, and harness, but before we get to those, there are three general key considerations: function, look & feel, and price.
The U.S. sex store, Good Vibrations, has this slogan: “The right tool for the job.” This is the essence of choosing your toy.
- do you want something that will vibrate, or not?
- do you want a toy just for external stimulation?
- do you want something you can use for penetration play as well?
- do you need something that is very quiet (nosy neighbours, kids, thin walls)?
- do you tire easily and need a toy that will be lighter, or with an easily manipulated switch?
- what about size and transportability?
An electric vibrator will have obvious limitations when you’re travelling. Is there a specific kind of play you like? While most of our toys are safe for anal use, some are made specifically for anal play - if that’s what you’re looking for, why not go right to the source? The above are just a few questions you may want to ponder while you browse. As you explore our selection each description provides information about the above. And don’t forget, help and suggestions are just an e-mail away, so please don’t hesitate to contact us if you’re confused or looking for some extra suggestions.
look & feel
Besides the different types of sex toy materials that toys are made of (see sections onhow to choose a vibrator and how to choose a dildo), there’s how they look and feel. Consider, if you’re looking at vibrators, that electric vibrators are heavier than battery-powered vibrators ; and that battery-powered vibrators have either internal or external battery packs. External ones are easier to manipulate while using the vibrator, but some people don’t like the extra cord and pack. Rechargeable vibratorsare now gaining in popularity because they give you the best of both worlds - strong vibrations and great warranties, but without the cord!
Many dildos and some vibrators are “representational” with veins, head and balls; others, while phallic in overall shape, are completely innovative in the details. These features do add to sensation, but most people also respond to the way they look. Do you want a toy that mimics a penis, or not at all? The same is true of colour: Do you prefer a naturalistic skin colour or the funkiest, sparkliest available? This is a purely aesthetic decision (colour doesn’t change how a toy feels).
If it’s your first toy, we suggest you start with something that isn’t too expensive. Finding what’s right for you may take some experimentation, and there is nothing more disappointing than spending a lot of money on a toy you don’t like. The less expensive toys don’t last as long, but once you figure what you like you can always invest in a better quality toy if you like.
Some women report that stimulation of the g spot leads to the release of fluids during sex and orgasm. For a number of these women there is a lot of liquid released during sex which, until the gradual acceptance of female ejaculation began, was thought to be urine and due to incontinence. There is now research that indicates this is not urine, and in fact the chemical content is similar to male ejaculate (without the sperm). It is usually clear and has no scent. The prevailing belief is that the fluid is released from glands and ducts surrounding the urethra.
The ability to ejaculate can be learned by women. In our experience talking with thousands of women over the years it seems that some learn it more easily than others, and some women ejaculate significantly more than others.
What’s important for us is that women don’t need to feel ashamed or embarrassed about what is part of a healthy sexual response. We don’t believe that every woman needs to learn to express fluid when she comes (and for that matter we don’t think it’s particularly important for men to do this either, unless someone wants to get pregnant).
If you’re interested in learning how to ejaculate we have books, videos, and a regular workshop on the topic. The following steps are from the film Nice Girls Don’t Do It by K. Daymond and featuring Shannon Bell who also appears in How to Female Ejaculate)
If you can’t reach or using your fingers isn’t going to work, you can also use a sex toy. Some toys are designed with a curve to make them easier to stimulate the g spot.
- Put 1 - 2 fingers in your vagina and find the urethral sponge. It is on the upper wall, about half a finger length in
- Rub this area, press hard and notice the feeling of having to pee - you are likely close to ejaculating. Place your middle finger lightly below the external part of your urethra and rub as you would masturbate your clitoris
- With your other hand, press down from the outside. Push out as you would when you pee.